I'm sure you are familiar with the famous quote by Jim Rohn, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with!" It's a quote that does carry a lot of weight and truth as the people you surround yourself with can have an adverse effect on your success and happiness. However, building a tribe, community, or network around you is the easy, but building one that truly benefits you in a number of ways can be difficult.
Often times we surround ourselves around the people we love, have known for years, or those that work with us. In many cases they may be having the opposite effect on you and your happiness. Take a minute to think about this. Who are the five people that you spend the most time with and do they take away from you or push you to be better? Are they kind and supportive or do they negate you constantly? It is no secret that your tribe effects you professionally and personally. It can create the utmost happiness and add to your success or it can bring you down and make you feel not good enough.
We all need a solid group of people around us that adds to our happiness, success, and overall life. I have compiled the top five things to look for in your tribe. Really think about the following tips. It's possible you may need to re-examine who you are currently spending the most time with.
Honesty with Purpose- Look for friends who will tell you the truth so you can genuinely be better and grow from it. If there’s no solution or progression behind their comment it’s not needed! Find people that are honest but compassionate, meaning people who will tell you the truth but in a kind and progressive manner!
Positivity!-People who will see the bright side of things opposed to focusing on the negative.
Continuous Development-Those who are constantly growing are constantly moving forward. You want to be around these people so that you too can feel motivated to move forward.
Belief in You- People who believe in you and want to see you succeed are keepers! (This is NOT always the case).
Mutual Friendship- A tribe who understands the concept of an equal relationship. Both parties give, both parties receive! Essentially you fill each others buckets!
The people you surround yourself with influence your behaviors, so choose friends who have healthy habits.